In this type of therapy, my style is to listen to the salient issues at hand—what do each of you think is going on? Together we prioritize the things you’d like to address. Through therapy, we work to gain a deeper understanding of your attachment styles, personality traits, and communication styles, among other things, to work toward you both understanding and seeing each other. This oftentimes means being able to recognize your similarities and differences, which is not always easy. It can be helpful to have a professional third party witness your experiences and help navigate tough and sensitive conversations.
Although this is not typical couples or family therapy work, I operate like a couples or family therapist in that I strive to see both sides of the story, no matter who makes the initial phone call
I completed my doctoral dissertation on friendship; specifically, how it impacts quality of life. I studied the complex history of friendships, and I was struck by how powerful friendship has proven across time; it’s such a constant. It’s always been there. And friendships are powerful. I believe in supporting and nurturing these types of relationships. I approach this work with an eclectic lens, utilizing psychodynamic, relational, culturally sensitive, attachment and EFT (commonly used in couples work) theory and concepts.
It isn't uncommon for me to hear people say, "I am x way with my friends, but y way with my partner," and I think about statements like this as it pertains to attachment similarities and differences within different types of partnerships.
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